No Matter How Hard Marriage is, Do Not Give Up!

No Matter How Hard Marriage is, Do Not Give Up!

This post is going to be about  hitting rock bottom and working our way back up. It’s hard to talk about this – because honestly, no one likes talking about how hard life can be. Sometimes – it just needs to be said.

Before Eric and I got married and had Audrey, we had spontaneously moved down south and thought that we could get a fresh start on things, with it being a new place and all. Before we knew it, we were barely living pay check to pay check. We both had jobs, and at some point, Eric had two jobs but got laid off from the one that made more money. It just seemed like a giant black hole was eating whatever money we did bring in.

We were toying with the idea of moving back home to be closer to our family but we knew we barely had the money to do so. We could barely afford to keep a roof over our heads. Towards the end of us living in that house, we both were burnt out beyond belief. We had went from not arguing about anything to just arguing just for the sake of arguing, sometimes, in a matter 6 months to a year of living there.

As we found out I was pregnant, we were both in a frenzy of do we literally pack up and move pre-baby or wait until after she is born. We wanted to be closer to more family, but financially, it just wasn’t possible at the time. I had gotten laid off that month, and the job Eric was working was not giving him hours. Around 5 months of me being pregnant, we worked it out to move back. We now live a lot better than we did, and it seems like things are working out a lot better. We aren’t fighting like we used to, and although there is a small cushion in case of emergencies- which me managed to save up pre-baby and have just added a little bit since, we don’t feel as trapped by money. {Well, Eric does – but he is working on it.} I am even fortunate to be a stay-at-home mom while I go to school – which is a blessing!

Why living on nothing actually has helped us:

We know we can make it work if something were to happen again with jobs.

There are people out there less fortunate than us, and we should realize that, sometimes step back, and be thankfulwe have a roof over our heads and a hot meal every night.

That blessing sometimes do come in little bundles of joy.

What my daughter did for us, was make us put our priorities in order. She actually helped us start living a better, healthier lifestyle, more frugal and has brought some serious joy into our lives. Most of all, she has taught me patience and sometimes you need to go through a little hardship to get to a better place. Even though she wasn’t planned, it seems like it was meant to happen. She renewed our purpose and made us reevaluate our lives.

I know that looking back that, I am thankful that we had gone through that because it did make us closer, even if we were fighting. No Matter How Hard Marriage is, Do Not Give Up!

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